What about the future?

We get a lot of questions about what we are going to do in the future. A lot of “are we going to have babies” questions. And we absolutely are. Our plan is to have her egg put in me first, and then have mine... but with the same sperm. We have both wanted families since we can remember. I work with children every day so I always think that I am ready... even though I won’t know until I have my own. I know that raising children up in a family with same-sex couples has caused problems with others in the past. I know my family has problems with it.

They always say that they are “going to grow up hating men” and they are not going to grow up “right”. Blah blah blah. Everyone has their own opinions and I will never push that away, however, I disagree. As long as we have respect for men and the male gender then I have no worries that my children will love or hate men any differently than a child raised by a man and woman. I think that as long as we love them with all our hearts and show that love to others and teach them to love others, they will turn out just fine. I have worked and taught kiddos for years now. Many children these days don’t even know how to READ let alone add or subtract a math problem. However, even though a education problem for children is REAL and SERIOUS, all parents want to talk about and judge is same sex parents. That’s wrong. In my opinion. We need to reset our priorities these days and really think about what is important. Do you agree? I really think it is important for our priorities to be in line. When our priorities are in check our lives will be in check. It is hard for me to keep God first in my life many times, because of all the things I have going on in my life. And I will be honest, I struggle with making sure I keep him first in my life. Although I love him and he is the foundation of who I am, I struggle keeping him first. For example, many times when I get up in the morning all I want to do is work out and eat and I forget to pray and read the Bible. Or on Sundays all I want to do is sleep in and I will not go to church that Sunday. Or I will be so excited for my day to start that I will forget to start my day in scripture. Or even at night I just want to pass out and I do not thank him for my day. I am not perfect. I suck showing the creator of the world how much I love him. However, I realize that I need to work harder to keep him as my first priority. Although I struggle with it daily, I know he needs to be my number one. I think it is important to work on things together as a couple. We make church something fun. We try to go for breakfast either before or after church and try to spend after service on Sundays talking about what we learned about in the message. Everyone has their own growth and their own struggles that they deal with. We are all human, we all struggle with different things, but the fact is we all struggle. So why not work on things and pray together? Many track times I try to put him first in the little things. For example, I try to listen to uplifting music in the car and I use this time to reflect on him and his word. Or another example is that we try to pray together and pray for each other. This can be very motivating and positive for a relationship, when each other knows they care about one another. Every moment counts. I challenge you to continue to put him first in your life. Start with a little things. Try a verse a day or praying before every meal. Every little thing counts. He sees it all. However, do not beat down on yourself if you do not reach your goal for that day. I know many people who judge others for when they sleep in on a Sunday or forget to pray. I believe that the Lord sees your heart and knows your intentions. We all are living this life together and sometimes life can be very hard... just keep trying and don’t give up. That’s what matters. Stay positive.